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Rebuked

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The Church of England was rebuked at a recent inquest held into the death of a former priest. It mishandled inquiry into false child abuse allegations. The priest took his own life as he could not cope with the investigation. How is one supposed to cope when they are not even told of the nature of the investigation! How cruel! He is not the first priest to have died because of the CofE’s negligence and sadly he won’t be the last!

I think I have said enough on this matter in my previous posts so I won’t say anymore.

However, I would urge all CofE clergy to join the Church of England Clergy Advocates (CECA) who are members of the Faith Workers Branch of Unite the Union. There is a monthly membership fee but I am reliably informed that it will be money worth spent.

The Mhinisteir is a member. If you are a clergy or know of a clergy, please encourage them to join. They will provide clergy with all the necessary support including legal support should (God forbid!) the clergy require it.

By joining, you will also in a small way (through the membership fee) be able to support falsely accused clergy like the Chancellor of Lincoln.

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Church Mafia

Another day and yet another safeguarding scandal in the Church of England! This time, the victim is the Canon Chancellor of Lincoln Cathedral. You can read about his ordeal here.

The good news is that it has been concluded that there was “no case to answer” but the bad news is that in the name of safeguarding, the Canon and his wife have been treated so badly that I am not sure that they can ever recover from this ordeal!

On the same day, I heard that ABC has apologised for something that is not even his business( The Bishop of St Davids had tweeted an ill judged comment about the current ruling party in the UK). If only, he could use his time more diligently and support and defend his own clergy in the CoE!

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Revenge is ugly

A few days ago, I read about the latest vendetta against the Dean of Christ Church, Oxford in the Private Eye. Oh by the way, he has been proven innocent once again! One of my bible readings for that day was from 1 Corinthians Chaper 6 which is entitled in the New International Version as Lawsuits against Believers!

I am so shocked by the determination of these persecutors. It appears that they would do anything and everything to try and pin this poor man down. What is very disappointing is that some among the persecutors are folk from the Church of England.

As I had mentioned in my previous blogpost, I don’t know this man personally and I am not even sure that I will agree with him on many things but to persecute him like this is very unchristian so says the heathen and they are right!!

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Bullies are Cowards!

I was excited to be moving to England.  I had never been to England just to London.  All I knew about England was through Midsomer Murders!  I was disappointed that there was no John Lewis in Oxford but never mind.

I was excited about finding a job in England.  In Scotland, I was self employed. I was nervous about working in the outside world but I needed to get stuck in. 

Despite being well qualified, I wasn’t getting past the interview stages. I was frustrated.  There was a firm in our village and I decided to email my CV to the owner (who was to become my boss). Just that they were not hiring!!!’ I got a reply the next day.  I started work on the  21st of September! I was elated.  It was my dream job!

Sadly for me, I knew by day two that I was unhappy in that office. My boss was a couple of years older than me. He was hot tempered and got very angry at the drop of a hat. I was often afraid that he might throw something at me! His behaviour was erratic.  Was he a bully?  I had never met a bully before so I quickly brushed that thought aside.  How wrong I was!

I didn’t want to resign because it had been so so difficult trying to find a job.

My boss monitored my every movement including my emails, phone calls. etc. I knew I was being monitored.  Thankfully I could walk home for lunch so was able to get some respite. I felt trapped. 

I dreaded going to work.

By Christmas that year, I was so stressed that I had developed ulcers all over inside my mouth. Despite all the emotional sufferings, I never missed a day’s work!

The final straw that broke the camel’s back was one Friday in February when my boss CONFISCATED my chair for about 2 hours!!!! I had to type a report standing. He found it all amusing. Was this really happening to me? Me a middle aged woman being treated like a naughty child?

I served my one months’s notice.

What was supposed to have been a very happy start to my life in England had made me homesick and miserable.

A few years later, just when I thought that I had put this very sad chapter of my life behind,  I heard that this person was preparing to become a Church of England Ordinand!!!!! Don’t these things only happen in the movies???

It has been many years since this happened but it still feels very raw. I will always remember the 21st of September for all the wrong reasons!